Sunday, August 2, 2009

Learning the Secret: Harness the Power of Emotion

Do you take control of your emotional well being, or do you allow situations and circumstances to control how you feel? Some may disagree, however, we do have the power to take control of our emotions no matter what. When situations come up that challenge you, remember that anytime you are feeling any negative emotion/feelings, you are handing over your power to the person or situation that changed your emotion. How we feel in the present moment is how we attract everything else that happens to us, so any time we loose control of our emotions, we lose control over what we are bringing into our lives. We need to strive to keep centered, grounded, and in control of our emotional state at all times. Gratitude is a great tool to use in times of challenge to make things easier for you to keep positive, and in control of your feelings.

I would like you help your brain start seeking answers to the question

"WHAT AM I GRATEFUL FOR?"

Start asking yourself this question numerous times a day. Practicing this regularly will help it to become habit, and to be able to use it to your advantage in times of challenge as I describe below. Look for things and allow yourself to start embracing an attitude of gratitude!

Here are some examples of things I thought of, and still think of, that I feel almost everyone can be grateful for:

1. I am grateful I have food available to me when I am hungry(for those who think you don't, you do, there are places everywhere you CAN receive food)

2. I am grateful I have clothing to wear, a place to live, and warmth if I am cold.

3. I am grateful for the love I have in my life, and the love I receive from those around me.

4. I am grateful I have the FREEDOM to take a walk outside, and that I am able walk.

5. I am grateful of where I am in my life now, as I know there are others who are battling greater struggles then myself.

6. I am grateful I can read, as I have the FREEDOM to educate myself on any topic I desire to learn.

7. I am grateful for the freedom of the choice I have to make my own decisions.

8. I am grateful that at anytime I can look up into the sky and see beauty and mystery, in the clouds, stars, and overall wonderment of the universe

9. I am grateful for all the beautiful places in the world that I hope to one day visit and see with my own eyes, and also am grateful for the gift of sight!

10. I am grateful for people giving the gift of their knowledge and sharing their experience, so I can experience new things.

If something happens, or someone says something to you that causes you to start to feel a negative emotion(anger, jealousy, greed, doubt, hurt feelings, etc) as SOON as you FEEL your MOOD SHIFT, walk away from the situation(even if it is walking away only mentally) for a few moments. Take a deep breath, and then ask yourself the question "WHAT AM I GRATEFUL FOR?" You may have to ask a few times, and redirect your mind chatter by forcing yourself to think of something other then the upsetting situation. Doing this however, will allow you to regain control of your emotions, and hold onto your power in the present moment.

Once you start thinking of the answers, and all you are grateful for, you will start feeling yourself move back into that positive feeling, and gaining control over your emotional state. Re-visit the situation with the gratitude of knowing that you took back control of your feelings and emotion. You will feel so empowered when you do this. It takes practice, but these tools will help. Know that whatever the situation is, it will NOT affect your emotions and take away your power. You hold all the power in the present moment, any situation can not take that away from you unless you allow it.

Tell yourself in your mind, or out loud even "I CONTROL HOW I FEEL AT ALL TIMES" "I WILL NOT LET THIS SITUATION TAKE MY POWER AWAY FROM ME. I CONTROL MY EMOTIONS AT ALL TIMES" Remember, the wind of anger blows out the lamp of intelligence. The more often you take control of your emotions, the stronger you will feel.

Go back to the situation with joy and a attitude of resolution. Remember, all problems have solutions. The negative energy is what causes those solutions to seem complicated, hard, or even causes the solution to be "invisible" to you temporarily. Don't focus on the problems, always turn your attention to the solution.

“Sometimes it is not necessary the problem to solve. Change the angle of vision and the problem dissolves” John C Lehman

Remember, you are in control of your feelings and emotions. Don't allow situations guide how you feel, and don't be led around by your emotions. You take the lead, you take control, and you embrace your power. Even if it sometimes feels hard for you at first, I PROMISE it gets easier. I believe in YOU, and I know you WILL reclaim the power that ONLY YOU can own!

2 comments:

Nichole said...

I am grateful for this blog, and for being introduced to Think and Grow Rich! I read chapter 2 last night and will re-read and take notes on it this morning, and tonight I will read chapter 3! By the way....Chapter 2....WOW! :)

Michelle said...

YEAH! Isn't it great! I can't wait to see where your journey takes you! Keep up the good work!