1. Know what you want and be specific - Decide what it is you want. Write down a few things and start small until you get the hang of it, and then do it again. One key thing here, and I just realised this today, DON'T put time limits on what you want. I edited my goals list tonight to take the time limits off. This is why, when you put a time limit on things, it allows you to doubt, and ponder, is it really going to happen and all those thoughts that just aren't working for you. Instead of being open for your "signs" you will be glancing at calenders. So no time limits, and be specific. Some people do vision boards, which I think I may try, but I don't use that at the moment.
2. Be Realistic in your expectations - Start small. I did the coffee, a few times actually, lol. When you start just think of what you need that would make you happy. Move on from there. Still dream big, but don't have any expectations. Really put thought into it, don't rush your list.
3. Get the feeling - Once you know what you want, its time to get the feeling to go with it. Now, that is SO much easier said then done, and one of the hardest parts to figure out. What I think the feeling is, is this. Imagine a time where you've felt so happy/proud/moved/touched that you feel almost warm inside your whole chest. Well, I think that's the feeling you need to be feeling when you think about what you want to make this work. But, I have a way that if I am having a hard time getting in that feeling, I can get in it. I found 3 you tube videos that give me that feeling. I watch them and think about what I want. I am sure you all have your own things that might give you that feeling. I certain song, a movie, a book, maybe a video also.
4. Think while Feeling - You need to try and remember to think of what you want at the times you are feeling this way, all the time. Its fine to do the videos or whatever helps you, but you have to try and remember to be conscious of what the feeling is, or just even when your happy to remember to think your thoughts. Now it is hard because when you do it, at least for me, I will start to think of what I want, and sometimes my brain is fighting back going"yeah right" the little "ya, buts" and the "what ifs" those have to be blocked out. That's the hard part. The videos, or whatever your happy thing may be is great practice for this. Don't allow doubt to creep in. My saying to myself is don't doubt, just believe. It helps me to ignore the negative thoughts. I even say it out loud. My husband sometimes rolls his eyes at me and laughs, but I do. I made a choice not to doubt. I just believe.
5. Being Thankful - Remember to be thankful and grateful, not for what you receive, but for what you have. For everything, the sun, the breeze, everything. Thank the universe when things go your way. The light is green, there is no line up where you are going, say thanks.
Watch for the signs. They will be easier to see if you believe. I mean, what are the chances of my neighbour mentioning the same thing I was thinking of not a 1/2 hour before. The signs will come, and when it starts to work, you will KNOW! And it only gets better.
I will be editing and adding to this as I learn more about these 5 key steps.
I would love to continue, but I have been neglecting my wonderful husband writing this, so until tomorrow, start thinking about YOUR list! Lets make these things work together.